it’s “not my scene”

I am annoyed, frustrated, disappointed, angry, let down…

Today, I asked my mom to come with me when I go to see the flower and decor supplier for the wedding. They are going to do a mock-up of my wedding table for me, and any other items i want to see (bouquets, button hole thingies etc) … she wrinkles her nose and says to me “It’s not really my scene. I don’t know anything about flowers, and I will just make a fool out of myself” …

I was COMPLETELY blown away! This is my MOTHER. I am her BABY DAUGHTER who is getting MARRIED!!! This is the first time she is actually going to a daughter’s wedding! (and the last time!).
Maybe I have a skewed sense of reality with this whole wedding planning thing… all the movies you watch have the couples cake tasting together, laughing and kissing, brides with their sisters giggling in change rooms trying on dresses, and the mother always there offering support, love, wisdom, advice, hugs, blah blah shit.

Not my life, no. This is not a Hollywood movie.


I knda looked at her, trying to hide my astonishment… and gave her a bit of a mouthful about how I don’t know anything about flowers either, but someone has to choose them. And I pretty much got up and left. And then I tweeted about, and drove home crying my eyes out. Got home, sat in my car and sobbed big fat loud ugly noisy wails on my car.


Checked my twitter stream to see a surge of tweets from a whole bunch of fabulously awesome ladies who offered to come and see the supplier with me!! Cath, Shaz, Angel, Marieks – thank you thank you thank you SO much! You guys really really made me feel SO MUCH better!! <3


I now feel lucky, special, loved and privileged that these ladiesĀ  took a moment to send me some love.

Thank you!!

Comments (10)

CathMay 12th, 2011 at 2:58 pm

I’ll come with you anyday. I DREAM of the day I get to do that, and I would SLAY to have my mother with me to do it. As a mom, it will be one of my greatest honours to do ANYTHING for my daughter for her wedding day.

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Just know that there are people who will do it ALL with you ANY DAY.


AngelMay 12th, 2011 at 2:58 pm

You’re more than welcome darling! I had my mom and sisters along for the whole ride and I wouldn’t have had it any other way!
BIG hugs!!

SharonMay 12th, 2011 at 3:03 pm

I wish I could do more to help you. I am in town for the whole month next month, if you need company or a second opinion for anything then ask me. Seriously, you should NOT be doing this alone. Anytime you need a friend I’m a phone call, tweet or bbm away.

adminMay 12th, 2011 at 3:07 pm

@Cath – big big hugs xxx thank you. you are a fabulous mommy!

@Angel – you are so generous, thank you! *mwah*

@Sharon – thank you so much! I promise to bear that in mind and will give you a shout :)

you guys really really really made my day today. Thank you!

marieksMay 12th, 2011 at 3:28 pm

I’ll come with anytime! Call it research to make your dress even more beautiful ;)

Jeanette VersterMay 12th, 2011 at 3:40 pm

OMw I would have been just as upset! Glad that you have so many offers for help

GinaMay 12th, 2011 at 5:33 pm

Oh wow.
Im so sorry she has dissapointed you.
Its really not about ‘knowing’ about flowers, its the experience of being with you.
Im around as well if you want some help or a second opinion!!!!

adminMay 12th, 2011 at 5:41 pm

thanks ladies :) really appreciate the support!

@Gina – yeah… i don’t KNOW about flowers either… i’m going to see if the pink roses are the right pink, and if the whole thing looks pretty! Not to exchange botanical theories!!

oh well… i guess at least now i know where i stand.

alidaonlineMay 12th, 2011 at 8:00 pm

I’m sorry you were disappointed. Planning a wedding is supposed to fun (even if it is a lot of organising) and your mum should be excited with you.

Shout if you need help (or an opinion). I’m sure all of us that commented can help in some way (and I’m sure we all have opinions LOL).

Strength and hugs!

cat@juggling actMay 15th, 2011 at 7:21 am

I am so sorry your mom disappointed you. It’s not really about the flower though, it’s the lack of “together’ for lack of a better term. We decided to do most things on our own, without parents etc and it worked well. We had lots of enjoyment out of it. My dress though – that was my mom and my “thing”.

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