Wedding Blues

You may have noticed on Twitter that I might seem a bit, um, “un-excited” about this whole wedding thing. I feel really bad that I’m not dancing in the streets and singing from the rooftops about it, I really do.

There are loads of reasons why I’m not a bounding princess about the whole things – not all of which I should mention here.
Don’t get me wrong, I am excited to get married, I am extremely lucky to have such an awesome man in my life who I love very much… just the whole wedding thing is a bit, meh…

I was never one of those girls who dreamed about her fairytale wedding with the white puffy dress, the mountains of flowers, crystals, tiaras and diamonds… heaps of food and a towering wedding cake. I wanted to get married on the beach, in a white cotton sun dress. Barefoot. Holding a single lily. Elope, just the 2 of us. Failing that, court would do the trick. Quick, painless, cheap, easy.

When it came to deciding about the wedding, neither of these options went down to well with anyone… the future husband, my parents, his parents – bla bla bla. So I said, ok, fine, we can do the whole proper, big, ridiculously expensive “White Wedding”. The problem now, is… who is left to organise, source and sort out this whole shindig? Not the groom, not my mom, not my dad, not his parents… ME. The girl who wanted a court wedding to avoid having to choose which napkins will go best with the theme and the tablecloth and the flowers. The anti-wedding girl needs to decide if her bouquet is going to be a mixture of flowers, or just roses… will it be a mixture of different pinks, or just one colour throughout. Will the tablecloths be white, cream, ivory or pearl. Patterned or plain. If patterned: squares, stripes, damask… OMG – this is BIZARRE!!!

So, I have my moments. Somedays I feel really really excited about the whole fairytale thing… a gorgeous dress, beautiful flowers, perfect napkins… And other days I get really frustrated and overwhelmed by the fact that I need to find a gorgeous dress, choose the beautiful flowers, and figure out WTF a perfect napkin is!


So, forgive me for my cynicism to the whole wedding thing. I am all for marriage, but I’m not sold on the whole wedding idea.

On that note – I am going to try on wedding dresses on Wednesday… that should be ridiculous!

Comments (8)

RebeccaMarch 1st, 2011 at 10:56 am

Have you thought about hiring Angel to help you? You know, just kinda explain what you want and let her do all the hard work and co-ordination. And if you’re not keen to mix friendship and work, there are a million wedding co-ordinators out there surely? Even if it costs a bit more, it’ll be totally worth it.

PS…SO with you on the getting married on the beach just the two of you. My plan is to do it at the end of the year when Dave, Jackson and I are in Vietnam.

GinaMarch 1st, 2011 at 11:01 am

Eloping sounds wonderful. Only reason I had a ‘white wedding’ was for my family. I would have been so happy to elope. Esp since it was pauls 2nd wedding.

Have you thought about hiring someone to help. I know it costs but they can make the decisions easier.

adminMarch 1st, 2011 at 11:01 am

@Rebecca – it has crossed my mind… problem is, we are rather strapped for cash (which makes a grand thing even MORE challenging!!) …
I’d like to feel the excitement, I’d actually love to get excited about choosing napkins… maybe there is something wrong with my wiring :p

ShayneMarch 1st, 2011 at 11:07 am

Weddings are so over-rated. The focus should be on the marriage ceremony, with you and your darling husband focusing on each other and the love you have for each other. No on the type of napkins, flowers or cake you have.

I’d disappear and get married in court. Then come back and have a big lunch somewhere for those who insist on ‘celebrating’ with you.

ShayneMarch 1st, 2011 at 11:07 am

Sorry, that wasn’t mean’t to be as harsh as it came across xx

adminMarch 1st, 2011 at 11:10 am

@Shayne : i dont think it’s harsh :) i agree 100%. it’s about commitment and love. Not material stuff.

Jeanette VersterMarch 1st, 2011 at 6:08 pm

Good luck with the dress thing… it looks like you’re getting loads of ideas from Pinterest :)

AngelMarch 4th, 2011 at 7:27 am

I can imagine that planning something you didn’t really want to do in the first place would be more than a little difficult…

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